Signs Your Cat is More Loyal Than Your Ex

I mean, it was probably never a question, right? This little guy right here… he’s always happy to see me. He snuggles when I need it. He never complains about dinner. In fact, he never complains.

As divorcing women, it’s important for us to remember that we don’t have to settle for less than we deserve. We bring a lot to the table and have worked hard to get to where we are. And one of those things we deserve in our lives is loyalty. Surround yourself with people (and pets) who bring that energy.

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The “D-word” that makes people feel weird

light up D with flowers

D-I-V-O-R-C-E. Divorce. The dreaded D word that makes people uncomfortable. The word that makes them feel like they need to apologize. Why? And why are we as divorced/divorcing women afraid to tell people that’s what is going on? We move, we change our names, people make assumptions, people whisper. Screw that.

We celebrate all kinds of life changes, new cars, new homes, new jobs, why not new leases on life? Because that’s what I think of when I hear divorce. Sure, the process sucks. The paperwork and the court hearings and the legal bills all suck. But think about what’s on the other side of all that? A fresh start. An opportunity to build the life that you want, on your terms. Ladies, let’s celebrate us <3.

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The Art of Assembling IKEA Furniture Alone: It’s Easier Than You Think

Ikea dresser

No one likes putting together IKEA furniture. And I’m guessing this was probably a task that you previously farmed out to “the other half” (notice I did not say the “better half”). Well friends, you’ve probably moved into a new place and need (or want) new furniture, but you’re probably also waiting on assets to be divided so are working with a budget. Leaving IKEA furniture as a viable option.

Trust me, I’ve been there. I actually bought the exact dresser in this photo. But no way in hell was I putting it together.

So here’s the deal. If you have a handy friend who likes assembling really frustrating furniture and getting bloody fingers from the repeated use of an allen wrench, go with that plan. But if not, I strongly encourage you to hire someone from TaskRabbit, Angie’s List, or Thumbtack (my personal favorite). In fact, IKEA now lets you add assembly when you are purchasing.

I moved across the country with what would fit in a U-Haul van. This included my cats, my peloton, my clothes, and a random assortment of other things, but it did not include much furniture. Moving, unpacking, furnishing, and settling in is exhausting. Farming out the tasks that will save you time and money is ok. In fact, I encourage it. Save your sanity (and your fingertips), let someone else do the work.

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New year, new me… or something like that

If you’re reading this, Happy New Year! It’s January 1, 2025, and I’m resurrecting this blog from the depths of the Internet. I’ve never been good at journaling, but I love writing and making people laugh, so this is going to have to do. If you didn’t read the about page yet, here’s the short version: I’m divorced (technically “divorcing”, as i’m still in the throes of the joy that is asset division), I’ve moved back to New England from Florida, and am figuring how to do life on my own.

There have been so many “if I don’t laugh, I’ll cry” moments throughout this process that I figured I should share them with the world. Also, divorce can be a lonely place, and I want to create a space for others going through it to laugh, cry, and commiserate.

I’m not about the “new year, new me” because, quite frankly, I like the old me, but I am about building a new life for myself on my terms. And lucky for you, if you follow along, you’ll be on the ride with me.

Cheers to a 2025 that has got to be better than 2024! 🍾

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